Demonstrators display the blue, pink and white Transgender Pride flag outside the Wyoming Capitol on Feb. 5, 2025. (Mike Vanata/WyoFile)
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Wyoming has long been proud of its rugged individualism, small-government conservatism and our ethos of live and let live. But in recent years, particularly for transgender residents like myself, that image has begun to feel like a cruel illusion. The state where I once felt safe, bought my first home and coached the youth of our community, has now become a place unrecognizable to me. What has caused this seismic shift? A legislature that has turned itself into a spectacle, ignoring real issues that affect everyday Wyomingites in favor of culture-war nonsense.

Opinion

For years, the Wyoming Legislature has targeted trans people under the guise of “protecting” women in public spaces, ensuring fairness in sports, and safeguarding free speech. This session that sentiment is on steroids. 

The larger issue at hand is the cruelty behind these anti-trans bills, not to mention the sheer volume. These measures are not about policy — they are about ensuring that transgender people, especially transgender women, do not have the right to exist in public spaces. The message is clear: Our humanity is up for debate, and our visibility is something to be legislated out of existence.

For example, House Bill 72, “Protecting Women’s Privacy in Public Spaces Act,” is the epitome of a direct attack on trans women, forcing us into men’s restrooms, prisons and locker rooms — jeopardizing our safety and dignity. The intent is clear: You don’t belong, you can’t exist, and your authenticity isn’t welcome.

But I am not just a headline or a statistic. I am a person with deep roots in Wyoming that stretch across the state. I was born in Rock Springs, grew up on the south side of Rawlins, attended high school in Douglas and then graduated from the University of Wyoming in Laramie.

It feels so wrong to be told I don’t belong here when my roots in Wyoming run so deep. My connection to this place isn’t just about where I live — it’s about the memories that shaped me. I think of my Grandma Juanita making coffee over a campfire as the sun rose over the Medicine Bow Mountains, filling the crisp morning air with warmth and the scent of home. Moments like those anchor me here. No matter what anyone says, I know in my soul that I am a daughter of Wyoming.

At Wyoming Equality, my colleagues joke that I’m a grumpy old Republican man because of how I coach — no bellyaching, no excuses, and I expect respect and personal responsibility. My boss says I should be sitting in a coffee shop, grumbling about “kids these days.” But that’s how I was raised — to be tough, resilient and hold myself to high standards. I carry those values into everything I do. As the first person in my family to go to college, I wanted to set an example for my four younger siblings, showing them that we can rise above expectations and build something bigger for ourselves.

Growing up with a single mother, I learned what it means to be a Wyoming woman. I was taught to work hard, provide for those I love, contribute to my community and hold my family close. I’ve laughed and cried with them, celebrating our victories and holding each other up through our hardest moments. That bond is unshakable, just like my love for this state.

Some of my best memories are with the friends I made in elementary school in Rawlins. We’ve driven thousands of miles on Wyoming highways, belting out terrible covers of Whitney Houston songs at the top of our lungs. No matter where life takes us, those moments — of joy, freedom and deep connection — will always be a part of who I am.

When asked if I felt safe stopping for gas in Chugwater or to have a meal at a roadside diner someplace between Cheyenne and Rock Springs, I’ve always responded “Of course, this is my home.” 

I don’t say that anymore. The Freedom Caucus has whipped up a frenzy of misinformation against people who look like me. They’ve painted us as predators, and you know what we do to predators in Wyoming. They’ve loaded the gun and I have to wonder when it will go off. Who will it hit?

I’m just like you, neighbor. My life is full and meaningful, and yet, lawmakers insist on reducing it to a political talking point. 

Instead of focusing on real, pressing issues like the economy, education and health care access, legislators are flooding the docket with redundant, performative measures meant to attack the LGBTQ+ community. 

It’s all the same song and dance, repackaged under different bill numbers and catch titles to give the illusion of productivity and used as a mechanism to secure their next election rather than actually helping Wyomingites.

These politicians are wasting taxpayer money. 

There is a massive cost paid by you, the taxpayer — every proposed bill costs a minimum of $14,000. Every hour spent repeatedly debating the same discriminatory policies is an hour not spent addressing Wyoming’s teacher shortages, lack of reproductive health care access or our struggling economy. The Wyoming Freedom Caucus — who claim to champion limited government — had no problem demanding a costly special session last year when they didn’t get the legislative outcome they wanted. Their idea of “limited government” seems to end at controlling people’s bodies, reducing personal freedom to the knowledge of a person’s genitals. Their hypocrisy is staggering.

Beyond the financial waste, the harm these bills cause to real people cannot be overstated. Transgender individuals in Wyoming, especially young people, are watching their government treat them as political pawns. They see their identities debated as if they are theoretical and their rights bargained away for votes. The message from our lawmakers is clear: If you’re trans in Wyoming, your life, dignity and existence are up for debate.

I have spent my whole life advocating for Wyoming’s LGBTQ+ community, testifying against these bills, and speaking out against the dangerous rhetoric that fuels them. 

But each session, it becomes harder to watch the place I love become less like home. Many trans people I know have already left, seeking safety in places where they are not vilified by their own representatives. I have stayed because I believe in Wyoming and the values it once stood for. But the question remains — will our legislators ever return to focusing on the real needs of the state, or will they continue this taxpayer-funded sideshow at the expense of our most vulnerable communities?

We cannot sit idly by while lawmakers attempt to reshape it into something unrecognizable. Now is the time to get involved — pay attention to the bills being introduced, attend legislative sessions and speak up for the values that truly define both you and me as Wyomingites. Tell your stories to your legislators, share a meal with those you may not always agree with and use your voice and your vote to reclaim Wyoming’s spirit of fairness and freedom. Together, we can ensure that our state remains a place where everyone — regardless of gender identity — has the right to live, work and thrive in peace.

Santi Murillo is a 27-year-old native of Wyoming who is currently residing in Cheyenne, Wyoming. She is the Communications Coordinator for Wyoming Equality, the state's only non-profit providing statewide...

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  1. I find piles of irony in the opinion piece. For instance, the title of the opinion, “A political spectacle at the expense of trans lives” followed by a picture that is clearly a political spectacle to promote trans lives.

    This is followed by two complaints… the first complaint is the bill is targeting trans people. This is actually an inferred complaint about the catch title of the bill. The catch title is not the proposed law at all. The text of the proposed law with definitions and citations never targets trans people. And the catch title is a terrible (ironic) oxymoron…”Privacy in public places”… really? Having served on submarines, and having been in a number of prisons, I can say that these public places have privacy only existing between your ears.

    Read the bill… it is linked in the article. Men and women are not mentioned in the bill. Sex is defined as male and female. Privacy is not defined at all. Gender, Identity, trans, LGBTQ, sports, free speech and rugged individualism are all never mentioned in the bill. All of those things still exist in Wyoming regardless of the text in the bill.

    Quite frankly, a judge or a lawyer might raise a ruckus and all the signs will have to change from mens to males and womens to females to comply with the language of the law. Someone has a brother in law in the door sign business.

    The next complaint is the cost… Completely invalid. We can say that the cost of the legislative circus is huge and divide the cost by the number of bills and come up with a number like $14,000 per bill. But I am sure that is not changed very much by legislators who are paid a small per diem. The actual cost is the LSO staff that costs real money all year long. And all of that is trivial when compared to the Judicial branch and then the really big expense of the Executive branch.

    Even blaming the Freedom caucus for everything is not true… in this case, the vast majority of sponsers are not freedom caucus legislators.

    So, I will be glad to share a meal and a cup of Juanita’s coffee with you and disagree on a bunch of stuff and agree on a bunch of other stuff… especially “kids these days.”

  2. There is no such thing as a ‘transgender/transsexual’ person until science finds a way to effectively, safely, and ethically rewrite a person’s DNA to become the opposite sex. In the meantime we have GDM’s (Gender Dysphoric Males) and GDF’s (Gender Dysphoric Females) for what I suspect is a tiny minority of the population that truly suffer from gender dysphoria, and there are PF’s (Pseudo Females) and PM’s (Pseudo Males) for the vocal group pretending to be the opposite sex for whatever reason.

  3. Santi: The way the trans issues have been handled has been a big mistake and has caused a serious backlash. Many of the proponents of trans issues portrayed a negative image which severely damaged the whole matter – I’m talking about the drag queens and males who exploited trans identity without fully transgendering to become females. Kappa kappa gamma in Laramie comes to mind. The liberal media overly promoted trans issues which caused a backlash in conservative states such as Wyoming. Trans issues should have been slowly introduced to the nation in a low key manner over time – too much media coverage with the opposite effect which trans proponents were hoping for. Most of my friends support don’t ask – don’t tell, live and let live but don’t make trans issues my problem. So sad to see trans issues mishandled – blame this one on the progressive liberals who misjudged the public response especially in conservative red states like Wyoming. Excellent article and I wish you the best.

  4. Human beings are essentially big brained chimpanzees, and as such, easily inflamed. It serves many of the religious and the politicians to inflame troop members against a common enemy. In modern times, this has been at one time or another anyone of a “false religion” (ie, Catholics, Muslims), gay people, “CRT”, “DEI”, community health professionals, climate scientists, and always anyone of color . . . and presently trans people. Always in service to maintain power atop the troop. Unfortunately, chimpanzees and humans can be quite cruel when inflamed. It takes a bit of work to stay open minded and respectful of others who are different than us. Wyoming culture at this time doesn’t seem to value respectful a live and let live ethic anymore. So sorry that you find yourself in the lights. Hope you cope and stay. Thanks for writing.

  5. Thank you for speaking out about the Wyoming that used to be. Sadly, I’m not comfortable even having my family, who also grew up here, visit me.

  6. Thank you for speaking out. I applaud your courage and hope that you will be safe and loved in your community. Why can’t we allow people the freedom to be themselves? It is a bunch of nonsense and is used to mask the incompetence of these legislators who are incapable of tackling the real problems we face in the state of Wyoming.

  7. I’m sure the writer has a difficult time dealing with his situation, but I fail to understand how that is helped by having females, expecially young girls exposed to men in their bathrooms. Surely he is old enougha dn mature enough to dela with his situation without traumatizing young girls. Do they not have doors on mens bathroom individual stools? If not that is what this person should be arguing for.

    1. I am sensitive to the argument that men should be respectful of women’s spaces. I can sell you an image of a burly, bearded man claiming to be a woman and heading to the restroom. Everything in my experience suggest this does not happen. I have seen no data suggesting this is happening. If this mythical beast existed, I would have a problem with it.

      What is at issue is the using to power of the state to force people out of some bathrooms and into others. You can see the image of the author of this article. What I really have a problem with is passing laws that force her to use the men’s room. If you really have a problem with men in women’s spaces, take a quick look at trans men online. These are people who have female on their birth certificates. They present as exactly who you want to keep out of the women’s spaces, and yet, the Freedom people want to pass laws forcing them into the women’s restrooms and women’s sports. This, more than anything, shows just far this issue has drifted from reality. Really. Go look at the images.

    2. I guess you missed the point of Santi’s remarkable opinion piece. It’s not about bathrooms.

  8. Everyone should read this letter to be reminded again about what it means to be a good, fair-minded person. The Freedom Caucus is hijacking the values of the good people of WY.