Our boys, Huck and Finn, were cretins when they were younger.  They fought constantly, their amped bodies coursing with the hormones of the aggrieved. When the huff, the insults, the shoves veered toward swings, we’d send them to the basement to “work it out.” That’s where the boxing gloves were.  

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They’d grab the gloves and proceed to pummel the very fiber out of their scrawny, almost-man bodies with a Peaky Blinders fervor, a violence of which I never want to know. Over the years, there’s been shattered glass, holes in the wall, blood on the carpet and a couple of projectile teeth. 

I thought of offering the basement and its gloves to Gov. Mark Gordon and Secretary of State Chuck Gray last week when, at a meeting of the State Board of Land Commissioners, Gordon asked Gray to step outside, a crucible, a once-and-for-all smackdown after years of Gray’s taunts and Gordon’s temper. 

Our boxing gloves are dusty, the boys, now matured. At the height of their poor behavior, Huck and Finn were in middle school. Gray and Gordon are not. 

Gentlemen, please. The manner in which Gordon, Gray and other leaders conduct themselves reflects a sorry view of our government institutions. Last week’s episode of Leaders Behaving Badly further erodes public confidence in our elected officials. We should expect more.

The compost pile has been plenty fertile. On Easter morning, where Christians drop to our knees and celebrate the One who embodies humility, kindness and compassion, Donald Trump dropped the F-bomb, praised Allah, and promised Iranian soldiers and civilians alike, “you’ll be living in Hell.” Two days later he threatened a “whole civilization will die,” an appalling negotiation tactic. Weeks earlier, upon the passing of Robert Mueller, former Director of the FBI and U.S. Attorney, one who spent a lifetime as a public servant, Trump said, “Good, I’m glad he’s dead.”  

Some may have thought his respective comments funny. Some may have agreed. Some might have looked away. But that should never be us. 

Remember when public officials were role models? They rose above the chicanery, too serious to engage in chest-thumping disputes. They were discerning, they could separate the wheat from the chaff. 

Now, not so much. So long as we continue to place people in office who devalue public service, “deplorable” best describes our resting state. By celebrating the death of Mueller, Trump devalues public servants (he is chief among them) and the institutions they serve. Mueller served both country and government. He was a Marine who served during the Vietnam War. His chest was plated with awards of valor, including a Bronze Star and a Purple Heart. He was politically colorblind and answered the call of presidents, Democrat and Republican alike.  

Mueller did not need to serve. He easily could have avoided public scrutiny and, toward the end of his life, death threats stemming from his investigation into Russian interference in the 2016 election. He could have profited handsomely in the private sector. He did not. Instead, he chose to serve. 

I am not glad he is dead.

Wyoming has a similar history of good and faithful servants. Govs. Stanley Hathaway and Ed Herschler, to name two, exemplified keen intellect, courage and vision. Hathaway was a Republican, unafraid to support unpopular policies for the benefit of future generations. Though politically risky, Hathaway saw taxes as a path for sustainable growth and endorsed the Democrats’ push to include a tax on exports and created the Permanent Wyoming Mineral Trust Fund, the funding mechanism that keeps the wheels on our state government ad infinitum. That trust fund also funds the Hathaway Scholarship, which has enabled thousands of Wyoming students to attend college, a significant portion of whom are first-generation college graduates. 

Herschler was a Democrat at a time when Wyomingites judged candidates on the content of their decisions, not the color of their party. A hallmark of Herschler’s term was a legacy of accessibility and connection with his constituents. He encouraged public discourse, telling a reporter, “I think the people are entitled to know [what I’m doing] and I do my very best to answer.”

Hathaway and Herschler took their obligation to the public seriously.   Oh, to press reset on our slumping expectations and raise the tide of decorum. Contrast Herschler’s genteel interaction with Wyomingites to Rep. Hageman’s recent town halls. Variously described as “divisive,” “explosive,” and “hostile,” Hageman’s town halls are a reflection of a citizenry at its swampiest. There, Hageman presides, a detached empress gloating down upon her heckling commoners. She pouts, parries shout with shout. 

When she’s exhausted her repertoire of MAGA sound bites, she retreats.  Rather than accept responsibility for the heated exchange with her constituents, the temperature of which she controls, she blames the audience, holding them solely accountable for the “embarrassing spectacle of manufactured political theater.” 

Where is the grown-up in the room? Until our leaders carry themselves with the gravity of the office for which they hold, we drift further from one another, our confidence in our leaders evaporating.

Be better, Trump, Gordon, Gray, Hageman. Perhaps a round in the basement might clarify and remind our public servants of their weighty obligation to their constituents and the manner in which we expect them to conduct themselves. 

In the meantime, the gloves lay dormant, ready for the next round. 

Susan Stubson is a writer and a pianist. See more of her work at www.susanstubson.com or contact her at suzanstubson@gmail.com

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  1. I have known the Hageman family for a long time. They have done wonderful things for Wyoming..Harriet Hageman is the best congressional representative we have ever had. She is a fighter and very kind. She will stand up for the rights of, we Wyoming citizens. She has the courage and the common sense to make good decisions, promote Christian values and to follow a business man and winner, Donald J. Trump.

    1. She’s a huge liar, just like her hero the orange menace. She got into office by supporting lies. She’s an awful woman.

  2. Thanks once again Susan for a well stated opinion. It’s always refreshing to read pieces like yours to reaffirm that not everyone in Wyoming has lost their minds and some of us can remember a more decent, civilized Wyoming.

  3. Thank you Susan for stating what needs to be said out loud. I imagine some folks whisper this behind closed doors, but it needs to be shouted so everyone can hear.

  4. Bravo, my friend. That needed to be said. Hageman and Gray have yet to find the bottom of their deplorable behavior, but that’s what plays with their base. I’ll give Gordon a pass. He’s tolerated Lil’ Chuckie for plenty long enough.Gray is damn lucky Herschler isn’t the governor.

  5. You captured the behaviors of an un-rational authority at its finest. Leading by example, (or at least the appearance of) was once deemed an integral characteristic of an office holder. That, like many other established institutions and norms have been discarded and replaced on the National level by the whims and theatrics of a cult leader that can do no wrong. Irrational behavior is the status quo, examples set in in D.C., are mimicked and utilized on down the political highway. The only way to make this right(Gordon vs Grey) is to have a charity boxing match, ala Jake Paul style. When things go south and self inspection and amends making are the necessary tools, stop, throw all that out of the window, and double down with a spectacle event, deny everything, and distract, distract, distract, the three essential D’s of a modern government, one that is very popular in Wyoming. MABA make America box again.

  6. Good article Susan thank you, this thing between our governor and secretary of state was solely brought on by the Secretary of State Chuck Gray. He has been in the governor‘s face and. Insulting the governor relentlessly, and then the governor has to sit by this little weasel, and he still shooting his mouth off and the governor had his limit. We all have our limit. I think the whole thing falls directly on Chuck Gray and his antagonizing, the governor, personally I am proud of the governor for drawing a line. It wasn’t a good place for the
    governor to draw the line however it happened. I feel Chuck Gray should be apologizing for not being respectful to the governor and pushing the governor too far. as for Donald Trump and his Easter disgraceful texting he did it’s just unbelievable. A president would do that how disgraceful no respect for Robert Muller, who served the country and died whether Trump liked him or not I feel he is due common courtesy as we all are due common courtesy. Then for Trump to praise Allah really on Easter no less it just doesn’t end with this guy. And of course Harriet Hageman loves this dude Trump and Chuck Gray. That’s their guy. What a strange situation. This country is in politically.

  7. The measure of a person is not perfection. I respectfully disagree with my friend, Susan Stubson’s choice to lump Governor Gordon in with politicians who proclaim their own virtue and righteousness. Such virtue signaling politicians are a dime-a-dozen. The measure of a person is the self-knowledge and humility to admit a mistake, take responsibility and apologize. All of which Governor Gordon did. Who among us could withstand eight years of unrelenting personal attacks, that are at best ilinformed, and at worst opportunistic and malicious, all while governing during one of the most challenging times of our generation? As a fourth generation Wyomingite, I recall a time when the citizens of Wyoming knew how to extend quiet grace to deserving public servants like our Governor. I long for a return to that level citizenship. Thank you Governor Gordon for your extraordinary service to this state. The State of Wyoming is the better for the years of your sacrificial service.

  8. Susan Chapin Stubson is an astute observer and has chronicled well the recent shortcomings of many of our elected officials. Let me note though that there are many (and they are a significant majority) who always serve WY with dignity and honor. Note too that Governor Gordon offered a sincere apology at yesterday’s SBLC meeting to Secretary Gray who accepted that apology – good on both as far as that went. Note too that Sec Gray did not offer an apology to Gov Gordon, board members or the public for his months of egregious behavior. Gray goads and prods at every opportunity. His participation in board matters often devolves into campaign sloganeering and Trump exaltation. Gov Gordon owned his shortcoming. Gray never has and likely never will admit to his own.

  9. So many people today never got into a good ol fist a cuff when they were in school. We used to fight constantly in school. The teacher let us have at it. One day he sat us down and told us we could fight all we wanted to but the only outcome was either bruises on your face or hands. There was a lot to learn in all of that. Fights have consequences and there is always room for discussion. This crap of all or nothing and the other side is dumb and evil has got to stop. Just like the fist fights in high school we can all do a lot better at getting things done. This is someone who has long believed in a balanced federal budget and states rights

  10. Well said! Dang, sometimes the truth spoken can hurt. Hope it ignites change. thanks!

  11. Nearly all politicians in the USA other than local, serve no public. They serve themselves, they may begin with good intentions but that quickly disappears.
    This is not just MAGA, it is Bipartisan.

    Trumps theatrics have ushered in a new era of American Politics. The people of this nation in 2016 had rejected the status quo establishment R vs D. The Right choosing Trump and the Left choosing Bernie (to be stolen/taken back to the status quo by Ms. Clinton and the DNC). Distract and Divide now keeps the status quo agenda intact. Trump’s rhetoric keeps Democrats accepting status quo from their party and Trump has done nothing he promised his base from drain the swamp to no more wars and every thing in between (status quo fully protected).

    You bring up politicians from a long dead era, money and special interests hold the Uniparty reigns.

    Side note, Mueller served the same interests the politicians do, and certainly NOT the People of the United States.

    1. Well, I guess everyone should be eliminated and we should just throw our hands in the air.

      1. Yes Gordon, thats exactly what they said 250 years ago.

        Problem is the people have been so successfully divided 50/50 that they could never come together to throw off a broken corrupt system. They just keep voting for “their side” not realizing it isn’t what they think, in either party.

        Last chance we had was 2010, except the original tea party fighting against corporate and bank bailouts was successfully co-opted and derailed by the time Occupy Wall Street rose up. Those 2 groups knew who the common enemy was and everything was done to keep them hating each other.

        The frogs fell asleep in the pot, Gordon and the water is starting to boil.

  12. Deplorable people that are in positions that citizens (young people especially) see as role models. We must pull back from the brink as a society. We are so very close to going over the edge. Resist!

  13. Too many of our current politicians have chosen to enter the arena to enrich themselves with power and money instead of actually wanting to improve the circumstances of their constituents. The concept of servant leadership is lost. Citizen’s United allowing unlimited volumes of money that can not be traced to the giver has just made the problem worse.

    Does anyone really think that our 3 reps in Washington DC or Mr Gray have any other motives than to enrich themselves monetarily and to use their bully pulpit to spread their falsehoods (i.e., illegals voting in large numbers, illegals are coming to take your job, government coming to take your guns, public libraries are allowing minors access to porn, etc,). They all use the concept of outrage to keep themselves in the news. True or false doesn’t matter, just as long as people are paying attention to them. It’s too tribal. The concept of compromise by this group is considered capitulation and weakness.

    They are all WIFM’s – what’s in it for me.

  14. Thank you Ms. Stubson for voicing the shame and disgust I feel. Indeed, where are the adults? I am also very sad for the misled who cheer these bullies on. amber

  15. Excellent and well said. I wish our politicians at every level of government would heed her words. The political scene today is exhausting and embarrassing.